Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Haute Mom Dilemma #29 ~ Adding on...

Ah…the biological clock. I always was one of those women that claimed to have never felt the biological clock tick. And, to be honest, I really didn’t. There may have been a small faint ticking sound towards the end there but it was never a full alarm that went off in my head like so many others experience. I knew that as I got older the potential risks of pregnancy increased but knew I had a few good years in me until I hit that “risky” old age of 35.

One of the things I said to my husband while I was pregnant was that we were going to have to have another baby. It is funny to think that one pregnancy automatically equals two children in the future but being one of three children, I wouldn’t want it any other way. I turned 34 three short months after Stella was born and as you all know, “When’s baby number two coming?” has been the new topic of interest. I originally thought I wanted my children close together because I felt like I needed to take this age thing into consideration. And now my clock is ticking. It is not a full alarm but it is an annoying hum that is slowly getting louder. It reminds me of Tick-Tock the Croc in Peter Pan, you know, it gets louder as it gets closer. That’s what my clock is doing to me. However, now that I have a VERY ACTIVE eight month old running around, I wonder how women have children within a year or two of one another!

So here is my dilemma…when is it a good time? I have heard from mommy friends who have children less than two years apart and they say it’s the best. I have others who have children three or four years apart and they say it’s the best. I loved being pregnant with Stella and I want my next pregnancy to go just as smoothly. Although, now that my favorite pairs of jeans are all welcoming me back with open arms, I selfishly am not quite ready to give them up again. What to do, what to do...I wonder if it will ever be a good time. Stella and the dog are already a handful. Maybe I should take that as a hint.


  1. My girls are 3 years apart and my husband and I thought it was a great age difference! I would like our third to be a little closer in age to our youngest, but we'll see! When the time is right you will know!


  2. I have a cousin with 4. her first 3 have 2 years in between and the last is 3 years. she prefers the 3 years. I was 5 from my brother and we were always too far apart in age.

  3. My good friend's daughter & son are 18 months apart and she will be the first to tell you ... WAIT longer than that! LOL. SHe said it is very difficult, and I see how hard it is for her. I feel maybe she should have waited longer. But with that said, everyone has their own story to tell and I am sure you will hear a different answer from every mom you ask. As for the age... no worries. I was 39 when I had my first. You just go for more ultrasounds and the dr is a little more cautious with things - but other than that, you will be fine no matter what decision you make :)

  4. Hayden and Zoe are 3.5 yrs apart and that was nice, but Hayden doesn't live with us full time. When this one is born Zoe will be just over 3 - I'll keep you posted on that result. But, as a working mom, I *can not* imagine having them closer together. I need Zoe to have the independence she does now to make it work. Futher details to come in June....

  5. My boys are 3 years apart and I'm an older Mom. I had my 2nd when I was 40. It's exhausting and I do get pretty tired. I think having 1 that's a little more independent makes it easier but do what you feel is best. Every pregnancy is different, every baby is different but we all make it through :)

  6. its never the RIGHT time.. its just time WHEN its time. :) <3

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