Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Haute Mom Dilemma #10~ Considering the Inconsiderate

I remember a time a few years ago, at a wedding, a girlfriend of mine was showing pictures of her daughter to me. After the fifth picture, I rolled my eyes and said something to the extent of, "Yeah, yeah, I get it. She's cute. Stop with the pictures." I then got up and headed back to the bar to get a refill (it was open bar for only a limited time). Fast forward to the present where my life has changed considerably and my biggest issues in life are not free cocktails but have to do with Stella. I have become so aware of things that I never noticed before. One of those things are the number of people who are so inconsiderate that they do not think about the fact that things are much more difficult when you have a baby in your life. If I had a dollar for every person that has let a door go without noticing (or acknowleding) that there is a lady with a stroller trying to get out behind them. I don't need you to load my car for me, carry my bags, or escort me to my car, but come on. Hold the door please! What about going out with non-baby couples? It takes us approximately 30 minues to get out the door. That does not include the amount of time that it takes me to get ready personally. On top of that, because I breastfeed, I must work backwards from the time we are supposed to be at dinner, at the start of the day, to time her feedings so that we can have a peaceful meal. We need advance notice if you are going to be late, change the restaurant, or cancel. We recently had a couple cancel on us 15 minutes prior to the dinner time. We had been getting ready for the past 45 minutes. I mean please. We were told that they were going to cancel 30 minutes prior to that. Well then why didn't you? You could have saved us a lot of time. What about the people that want to get together and then are late? If you say you are coming over at a certain time then be there. I am not just sitting here filing my nails, I am trying to keep my daughter on a schedule. My mother-in-law recently told my husband that our daughter needs to be on OUR schedule. Really? She is 15 weeks. What a crock. On the other hand, I have noticed that there are so many people who are considerate because of our new addition. Friends who welcome her at their parties, strangers who offer to help you when they see you struggling. It is amazing! I feel as though I have left an old club and joined a new one with nicer, more considerate adults. My haute social circle is leaving some people behind; leaving behind people that were once like me. People who just don't get it. I don't care about your events, your dinners where your biggest concern is what you are going to drink. I have a new haute life with nicer people who actually consider other people than themselves. Thank you to all my old friends who have come along with me for the ride. Good riddance to the rest of you.

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  1. I understand how you feel about folks who are not considerate about the newest member of your family, (not holding the door open when you're coming with the stroller, parking so close to your car that you can't open the back door all the way to get the baby out, honking while you load the baby and stroller into the car--because you're not going fast enough, etc....)

    Remember when Sean commented on the volume of pictures, (of Zavier), I e-mail...and I told both of you to wait until your turn..... :-)

  2. Some very valid points here!! I was also told to put my baby on my schedule... HUH???? My schedule does not involve pulling out a breast every 2 hours, is that supposed to work?? LOL


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